If they don't have any of the titles on their shelves, see if they are part of a library sharing group and you can borrow them Free at your library. This will create a drive within them, a want to succeed, and you will reap the benefits. And if you want to influence people the only fair way to do it is through honesty. After dinner, I went off by myself, opened my engagement book, and thought over all the interviews, discussions and meetings that had taken place during the week. He gives you six examples when one or two would do. The third way, remember others names.
There is no way to put a price tag on that. If you are not satisfied, why not experiment? Let people enjoy a challenge. To handle people well, we must never criticize, condemn or complain because it will never result in the behavior we desire. Let your arms swing as you step. Since its release in 1936, How to Win Friends and Influence People has sold more than 15 million copies.
Who Should Read How To Win Friends And Influence People? I took the Dale Carnegie course, and this book was required reading. Perhaps I am overly critical of this book considering my past experiences with it, but I will not deny that, in the right hands, this book is certainly moving. Carnegie expresses how the name of someone to them is the sweetest and most important sound in the entire universe. The 10X Rule shows you how! I really think the title is misleading. When something goes wrong, taking responsibility can help win others to your side. I have the worst patience As most of you know this is not the type of book I normally reach for, so it should be no surprise that my dad recommended it.
Making People Glad to Do What You Want. Want to understand and get along with others? Shower daily, washing your hair no less than 3 and no more than 5 times a week; brush your teeth at least twice daily, and floss at least once daily; wash your face, comb or brush your hair, and apply deodorant every morning. This shows the speaker that you listened and understood what they were saying, and he or she will love you for it. Sometimes ideas are not enough and we must dramatize them. Stephen Covey went on to develop this further with his 7 habits. Get them excited about it, inspire a little passion in them so they can approach a task with happiness and a drive to do well. Funny how treating people better leads to leadership, friends, and influencing them.
The 5 th way, talk in terms of others interests not in your own interest. I bought this one in 2004 from an Amsterdam bookstore and it has been laying on my bookshelves since then. The easiest action you can take to make others instantly like you then, is to smile. . Dale Carnegie was nothing but a huckstering sophist, and a very repulsive one at that.
Shimkin urged Carnegie to write a book, but he was not initially persuaded. I am planning to read it again and again to rally grasp the wonderful examples. We all love people who listen to us for hours end as we yatter on and on about our own lives. If you asked me for just one book that you should read this year, this would be my recommendation. Resolve now to test the concepts as an exercise in lateral thinking. Most of us read so that we are inspired, moved, even shocked or atleast entertained by stories. This principle also teach you to help others.
One - it seemed pretty much timeless. Even killing the dog would not cure the bite. Well, I have now listened to it twice, and it will certanly get a third listening. This way, they will feel supported and encouraged and will go above and beyond to fix the situation. This summary is not intended as a replacement for the original book and all quotes are credited to the above mentioned author and publisher.
Give people a reason to look up to you, give them the desire to want to live up to your reputation. The key is to not interrupt, Carnegie stresses the importance of patient listening, and be sincere, be genuinely interested so that they can feel comfortable to truly express themselves. The main characters of this non fiction, self help story are ,. Scholarly critique however, was little and oscillated over time. All in all, it was very informative and useful book. This recalls another old maxim - if something seems to good to be true, it probably is too good to be true. This book had a profound effect on me, however, of the negative variety.
We also have to recognise that this won't work all the time. American Eugenics also had a profound influence upon German Eugenics, an influence which one can see documented in the minutes of The Nuremberg Trials. I love this book and am going to require that my children read it before they get a job, a drivers' license, or a date. Control your temper: Remember, you can measure the size of a person by what makes him or her angry. Two - the techniques described in the book aren't duplicitous. This last week I challenged her to show me her first test or quiz, in any class, above 80% and promised an unspecified reward.
Dale, saying people's names often when you're talking to them, Dale, doesn't make you popular, Dale, it makes you sound like a patronizing creep. It puts a person in the limelight, raises one head and shoulders above the crowd. In order to future a relationship, you have to go above and beyond for other people. If the eyes are the windows to the soul, the face is a floodgate waiting to be opened. This time I actually got to put some of the principles of this book into practice when tutoring an unwilling 7th grader. It explains the ways to influence people without being false but just being nice. Remain diplomatic and you will find it easier to get your own point across.